It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Haha, not really. It’s cold and Tesco have so much junk food on offer even my belly gets confused as to what treats it wants.
Often with my fellow singletons AKA the Blobbies, we collectively discuss single life - How difficult it is meeting men? Where are the nice ones? What dating apps are best (Bumble & POF got the thumbs up by the way) what dates we have coming up.… you get it, general girly chit chat.
Which leads me on to Christmas, and yes I know it’s only November, but when you’re single and a women, you start thinking of this in August, then when Christmas is over we’re thinking Valentine’s Day.
Although everyone would agree they enjoy their own space, sometimes the thought of not settling down can be quite daunting.
I am already preparing myself for the dreaded questions-
“So when are you going to settle down & get married?”
”Why are you still single”?
“You still not met anyone?”
“Don’t you want kids?”
I....have....no....idea.... I can feel my eyes rolling already!
To be honest I’ve never understood how people expect you to answer.
It’s not all that bad, So here’s to why being single this Christmas IS A GOOD THING!!!
It’s easier on your budget
It’s no secret that buying gifts can wipe your bank account quicker than a trip down Hotel Chocolat, but when you’re in a relationship, you not only find yourself getting them a present, but you also start getting the parents, brothers, sister and the long lost cousins gifts too.
So this year go treat yourself. You deserve it!
You can eat more
There is no one to judge the muffin top that appears after you’ve demolished all the chocolates by 11am on Christmas morning.
The season’s theme is to “eat, drink and be merry,” So just ensure you get those pj’s in the next size up, because eating, drinking and being merry is a must this year.
You’re in the majority
First, it is important to know that you are not alone in your aloneness. In fact, singletons now make up more than half of the adult population in Britain. So while you may think you are the sad single one, the truth is that you’re actually quite normal (despite what your timeline on Facebook is showing you). #instacouples #relationshipgoals #boydidgood
Enjoy yourself
For many it’s known that depression, anxiety and Christmas go together like Jam, scones and clotted cream and being lonely is one of the main causes, so whether it means booking the next flight out of here, or just sitting in your jammies watching boxsets with the festive edition Bakewell tarts just remember to take some "you time".
You get to be selfish
The best thing about being single is you're allowed to be selfish - you're accountable to less people. Yes, you don't get those snuggle sofa days but you do get to go out for brunch with the girls and drink Prosecco the wrong side of midday just for the hell of it and you will be waking up Christmas morning, starfished across the bed in those very unflattering tartan pj’s, not worrying who’s family you are spending the day with - just knowing that Jude Law & Cameron Diaz are ready and waiting in your Sky Planner.
So don’t go all Bridget Jones - embrace the festivities and create your own traditions.
Being single is not the end of the world. You are happy and healthy with or without a partner and there's always that chance for a little snog under the mistletoe.
Here's to all the fun drunken Christmas parties :)
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| Throwing it back to 2016 to our annual girls Christmas get together. |
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| On special offer in Tesco already, |
